ANR does not mean the woman has to be lactating. This is a misconception made by many. It is usually those who are in a fully committed ANR or would like to be in a fully committed in to ANR or those who are in to it for the health benefits that actually lactate. (Sometimes referred as “True ANR”). A lot of couples don't have the time or patients to do what it takes to get the milk flowing and keep it going. But they still consider themselves in to an ANR. These sessions can be from a now and then, a couple times a week or several times a day.

 I don't mind if my wife lactates or not. Its not about the lactation. It is the closeness, intimacy and comfort that I crave from her. I need the emotional healing that only ANR has succeeded in giving me.

For something that several million people are into and is even referenced in the bible. It not wrong. It's just misunderstood.